The gilded cage is still a cage after all.
Time, focused attention - this and more must be lovingly given.
Only you can decide.
Even not deciding, is deciding; this can not be escaped.
The law of Divine Timing is always in action.
Flow with it.
Rest within it.
Look to the children, become open to, and aware of, their needs.
Decision time is here and now, embrace it as the opportunity it is.